Today is rung 4 of 7 on this topic
Running your own life
Can do: Manages their own schedule, health, money and commitments with minimal prompting.
Why it matters
Two years from independence, the habits that will run unsupervised are being set now. Practice while there's still a safety net.
What it looks like when it's wobbly
Academically capable but logistically dependent — reminders, transport, appointments and money all handled by someone else.
⏱️ Two-minute check
"What's coming up in the next two weeks that you're responsible for?"
Solid looks like: A complete answer without checking with anyone.
The full activity for this topic · Ongoing
Take Over One Domain
- 1Pick one domain to hand over completely this term: appointments, laundry, a food budget, transport.
- 2They own it entirely, including the consequences of forgetting.
- 3Add a weekly five-minute review of everything upcoming.
- 4Once it's stable, hand over a second domain.
- 5Resist rescuing. One missed appointment teaches more than a year of reminders.
If it's too hard
One narrow responsibility with a weekly check-in.
If it's too easy
A monthly budget they manage entirely, including the mistakes.
Say this
"That one's yours now. I'm not going to remind you — and I'm not going to be cross when you forget once."